To Do 2017

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I hate saying I’m making a “News Year Resolution” to do something. Why? Because I always break it. It’s like the automatic jinx, if I just say the words, I break it. Over the past few years I decided I would start the year with a few things I thought I would try to make a habit of and most of them stuck. It felt less like a commitment since I obviously have commitment issues. 😉

 For 2017 I have some new goals and  little ways to improve my year.

BE CONTENT

Enjoy life. Stop looking at all the ways which my life could be different and enjoy where I am in life now. Stop comparing my life to others. Enjoy the life I have and improve on what I can.

FOCUS ON THOSE WHO CARE  cut out those who don’t

This has been on my “list”every year. I want to surround myself with positive, caring people who have equal interest and investment in my life, as I do in theirs. Not only just cutting out those who bring me down, but uplift those in my life who care and are involved my life.

STOP OVERTHINKING

This is probably the hardest for one me, yet something I desperately need to stop. I overthink. Everything .A lot of times I overthink something so much I end up either ruining it, forgetting about it or stressing about it. I was reading a random article about tips to help you wake up even earlier and something that stuck with me was “Don’t think about it and just do it. Get up go put clothes on and not think.” I actually noticed in using this for other things that it really works! Just stop trying to be a perfectionist and do it. No one cares that much anyway and if you are thinking about other peoples projection of whatever it is, then you probably shouldn’t be doing it in the first place.

MAKE TIME

Do more within your week. Stay busy. Make plans. Do your nails. Schedule family time. Plan ahead!

BE POSITIVE

I am defiantly a realist with a dash of pessimism. It’s so much easy to look at things negativity and I want to be more positive and stop putting myself into a positive mindset by being negative.

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I have to admit. This is something that falls into another category I wrote about above. I over think this blog. I think about who wants to read that and if I should even bother but then I hate seeing that I haven’t written anything in months. This is something I enjoy whether or not others read it, years from now I will love come and read about my life and things that were on my mind and on bad days when I’m “overthinking”, read this very post.

READ MORE

When I was younger it was all I did.Everywhere, anytime I had a book in my hand. Now that I have 2 kids and a every excuse not to make time, I can barely read one book a month. Reading not only is enjoyable but will encourage my children to do the same. So much of a good education relies on reading.

BE HEALTHIER

Don’t obsess over weigh. Even though sometimes it does, it shouldn’t define my happiness. Eat less, drink more water and move more. Healthy habits!

TAKE TIME FOR ME

Self care can be lost in a “mom bun and “leggings everyday after becoming a SAHM. Not that we don’t all have those days or that there is something wrong with it. But it’s amazing how much better you feel after taking the time to put some eye liner on straight. 😀 Take time to spend a few minutes doing something for me. The fact that Bristol dresses better than I do, is a shame to the old me. 😀 But that doesn’t mean I cannot make the time to do a workout in the morning, or get my nails or do a new hair style, or maybe even go to the store for some kid free me time and go on a mini make up spree.

 SPEND LESS ON THINGS

Of course we all want to stop spending money on things we don’t need but I’m talking about instead of spend money on things spend it on experiences. Some of my favorite memories are of day trips or little things we did as a family that cost a bit of money but not only were enjoyable but memorable. Years from now that $40 dress will be gone, ( or more likely not fit) but that $40 trip to the Zoo you will remember. Collect memories, not things.

 

LIST  OF SMALL THINGS TO COMPLETE

  • Start meal planning. Take the time to write out what meals we are having in a week and make ingredient list before I get to the store
  • Organize every drawer and cabinet. Donate anything I haven’t used at least 1 time in the past year
  • GET RID OF THAT HORRIBLE JUNK DRAWER (We ALL have one)  I happen to have 2 of these. #selfshame time to gut it and throw all that random stuff I’ll never use away!
  • Drink at least 72 oz water. I have two 24 oz water reusable bottles. I was doing so well at refilling through the day but lately have slacked off. Its only 3 bottles! That’s do-able!
  • Start to learn a new language – I thinking French.
  • Try to do at least 1 random act of kindness a week.  More importantly include the kids in this, go give flowers to the elderly at the Hospice center.Even something as small as a genuine compliment to a friend.
  • Organize all my photos. The ones on my hard drive and computer and about 100 SD cards, plus google photos and hard copies. Get them all in 1 or 2 places.
  • Put phone away an hour before bed. Spend bedtime not only cleaning up but also focusing on family no distractions.
  • Send thank you cards to those in your life. A spontaneous handwritten note can meet so much to someone who may not know that you appreciate them. Life is too short to not let those around you know that you care.

I know this is late (maybe I should add being on time to my list) but,

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I hope you enjoyed my blog and maybe liked it enough to add some to your list of 2017 “to-do”.

Thanks for reading!

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Potty Training 2.0

Potty Training. Oh the joys. With Jonas, my oldest, he had zero understanding, or interest in using the toilet for the longest time. After trying several tries and him not comprehending what to do, I gave up. It was on his 3rd birthday that I just told him we were done with diapers and to now pee in the toilet. (At this point he was well old enough to understand) and after a few mistakes he was good to go.

“I’ve done this once before, I should know how to do this, right?”

I’ve always heard girls are easier to potty train than boys and was excited to potty train Bristol earlier than Jonas. But as with every comparison of my two children, she is completely different story. The child is clever. Too clever. At about 14 months she was taking off her diaper and would tell you she was poopy.  I thought I had lucked out and she was ready. Nope. That toilet (and the other 2 kinds) were completely terrifying and she NEEEEEDDDEEDD diapers. Honestly, the granola mom side of me loved our Cloth Diapers (note the ‘our’ 😉 ) and decided to wait. Still she would let me know and had all the signs of being ready, even going as far as telling me what a “good job” I was doing peeing in the toilet, when I would bring her with me to see how big girls pee in the potty. She would tell me how pee pee goes in the toilet yet every few weeks I would give potty training a try, and every time she would scream and BEG for her diaper. Finally I decided that she KNOWS how to potty in the toilet but she has no desire to do so. Unfortunately she may have inherited some of mine (or more likely 😉 Brandon’s) stubborn genes. Someday she would be potty trained, but not until she decided she wanted to.

Meanwhile, I had the voices of other moms, “You mean she isn’t potty trained? My girl was _ months when she was potty trained.” and “You really should try now or she’ll be 16 and still in Cloth Diapers.” (I DO love my Cloth Diapers 🙂 ) There was one piece of advice that kept coming back to me, something my mother kept saying “When she is ready, she will be ready. Just give her time.”

The Book

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I really should  call this post, how my 2 year old potty trained herself.

At almost 2 1/2, Bristol LOVES books. They have always been her favorite thing. (Other than Daddy) So one day my mother and I were looking through the books at BJs when we came across this book, “Girls’ Potty Time”. The front has a nice little toilet lid and inside are pictures of panties and little girls using the potty. It even came with little stickers in the back (Spoiler Alert: THIS BOOK IS A MIRACLE!) Bristol immediately wanted to read the book and as I let her skim through the pages you could see the wheels turning as she looked. “Potty in toilet?”…” Big Girl Panties”…”Big Girl pee pee in toilet” she kept saying. I motioned to my mother who also could see, Bristol was really into this book. Thinking no harm could be done, it was worth a shot and maybe if I read it to her about 1,000 times she’d finally get it, I got the book. I wish I has taken a picture, the entire way home she intensely studied this book. I got a kick out of it and thought it was adorable. We got home and as I began to unload groceries I noticed that my usual little helper was no where to be found. After searching, I discovered her in the bathroom with her skirt and diaper off and she was trying to get on the toilet. I set her on the toilet (with one of the “terrifying” potty seats on it) and she actually peed. We put big girl panties on and every time she needed to pee, she would tell me and she would actually pee. That was Thursday and by Sunday she had only made 2 mistakes and both of those were at night in a cloth pull up. I really couldn’t believe it. My mother kept joking with me that Bristol is the only child she had ever seen, that decided to potty train herself by reading about it in a book.

I know this whole post sounds melodramatic but if you are looking to potty train and your little one loves books, buy. this. book! 😀 .

Other tips I learned this time around.

Although she is completely potty trained now I may have made a slight mistake by using candy as an incentive. She is clever enough to hold her pee and make one pee last about 3 times to the toilet for triple the candy reward. Clever, Bristol…very clever.

If I only had one tip to give about potty training it would be to just wait. When they are ready, they will be ready. Otherwise you will be potty trained, by constantly bringing them to the potty, and not your little one.

Also carrying a small potty training toilet lid with you, so you can go to the store and she will still pee in the toilet, will surely get you some strange looks. I mean I have disinfectant wipes with me, come on do you all think I’m that gross?! 😉

(Yup, I do still miss those Cloth Diapers. 😉 )

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Holiday Season

Christmas.It always take me a while to jump right into the Christmas spirit. It sneaks up on me. One minute I’m back to school shopping and the next there are Christmas decorations everywhere.

These past several years we have taken a day trip right before Christmas and go to the mountains in Boone NC, get some Christmas shopping done and enjoy the beautiful sights. Last year we decided we would add getting our Christmas tree in the mountains as well and we hope to make it a Christmas tradition every year (You can read about it here: New Christmas Traditions) This year we actually added an extra day and spent Thanksgiving in the mountains as well. And to really get into the Christmas spirit we got pictures with Santa and our tree the very next day. We came back home with our tree and  were ready to start our Holiday season. I am pretty sure there are only around 10 days between Thanksgiving and Christmas because I was supposed to post this once we got back and now Christmas is only 2 days away!

So, finally, here are the pictures from our trip.

Thanksgiving Feast at Dan’l Boone Inn


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This has been a favorite breakfast stop for us these past few years and their Thanksgiving dinner was so good! All you can eat from Turkey, to Salisbury Steak to Pumpkin Pie. The only con was because it was Thanksgiving day there was a minimum 2 hour wait. But I kept the kids entertained while Brandon held a spot for us so it was still worth the wait.

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My 3 favorite people.

Picking our Tree at Corneett-Deal Tree Farm

Unfortunately the place we went last year for our tree was not open this year. But they did recommend Cornett-Deal Tree Farm to us. They take you on a hayride up the mountain and let you wonder through and pick your tree. Once you come down from the mountain, they have your tree shaken and load it for you. They also serve free hot chocolate and Cider and have all kind of wreaths and other Christmas items for sale.

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Hayride to the top of the mountain

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Looking for the perfect Tree
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“This one Mom”
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Found the Perfect tree
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Family, what matters most.

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All ready to go!

Mast General Store


On the way home we always have to stop at one of our favorite stores. The Mast General Store to get some Old Fashion Candy. The kids love filling their buckets with candy.boone123411225boone

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Picking out candy
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All ready to go

Meeting Santa


This is our 3rd year meeting Santa at the Boone Mall. The people there are great and always take time with Jonas and Bristol. The photographer asked me if we had come before and said she remembered Bristol’s picture from last year. They used it on their advertisement screen and she remembered it was pretty hilarious. Well at least Miss Bristol knows how to make an impact!

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Hope you enjoyed this post and reading about our little family and very full life. Hope you have a Merry Christmas. ❤

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be kind.

Just some short morning coffee thoughts.

I don’t know why but this short saying keeps sticking in my mind lately,

Be Kind. 

One thing that began to make me think about kindness was an acquaintance of mine from high school, passed away a few months ago at the young age of 26. I would love to say I knew her well but unfortunately we hadn’t seen each other in years. There was the occasional “Like” on Facebook and the very distant way we keep up with our friends on social media. When someone asked me what kind of person she was, the one thing that I remember saying about her was that she was kind. So very kind. There was just a sweet and loving spirit about her. It sounds so plain and not very descriptive, but there was a way she was was, she was just genuinely kind to those around her.She had a loving, gentle way with people. She was kind. It made me think.  I wonder would I  be considered a kind person? Would my children remember me as a kind mother?

 Kind, the word seems so simple. The act of kindness isn’t so simple. At times it’s so much easier to get upset and lash out or over speak and forget to be kind and show love towards people.

 

Definition – KIND  
of a good or benevolent nature or disposition, as a person:
a kind and loving person.
mild, benign, benignant, gentle, tender, compassionate. Kind, gracious,kindhearted, kindly imply a sympathetic attitude toward others, and willingness to do good or give pleasure. Kind implies a deep-seated characteristic shown either habitually or on occasion by considerate behavior: a kind father.

I want to strive everyday to be kind. I want to be compassionate. I want to have a willingness to do good. I want a sympathetic attitude towards others. I want my children to see that kindness and in turn be kind to those around them.Something as simple as kindness can have an effect on people, just as it did to me.

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Bristol 2nd milestone

Bristol, my spunky child.photogrid_1477423534986

Even though she turned 2 back in July, my blogging of late has been far behind.  I’d like to take some time to write about my little wild girl and share what she’s been up to since she turned 2.

 

 

Daddy is best and my favorite person.

Socks are for your hands, especially if they have Dory or “Elsas” on them.

You know those big girl panties I picked out with “Elsas” on them? I really didn’t want to wear them but I really LOVE “Elsas” so I will carry all 7 pairs everywhere with me.

Pretend singing so much fun. Even though my mouth is moving and no words are coming out, I’m clearly the best singer around here.

All I need is the first 2 notes of “Shake It Off” or “Don’t Want To Know” and my dancing is everywhere!

I will only watch the movie Home…over…and over….and over…and WAIT… did you say Frozen?! ELSAS?!

If you vacuum, I vacuum. With my own vacuum. Right where you are. In front of where you are. On top of you. You know what? Just let me go first.

Food? Nope, only CHEEEESSE. Or maybe a ‘Nack.

I can count to 10…but only if you don’t ask me.

Shoes?!?! Yes please! Those pink glitter shoes… yessss, with my Dory socks.

I will only wear “Kiddy” Cat Pjs…all day.

Mom is “MAAA” (sounds like someone from New Jersey)  and sometimes Mom. But Dad is “Da-Dee” in my little Peppa Pig Voice.

Walking is fine, strutting better but tip toeing makes me seem a little taller. Like Go-Nas. (Jonas)

I love to read. Pulling down every single book I own is the only way to do it!

I’ll take a nap here or there. I think the car is the best place to nap, but only for 15 minutes. And right when we get to where we are going.

I can only leave the house if I have my bae (Blanket),purse, sunglasses and cell phone.

When Daddy comes home running and jumping, and screaming his name are the best ways to let him know he was missed.

I peed in the potty once. And on my own. But now that potty is a pretty scary place to sit. Maybe all that excited yelling you did Mom, was a little too much.

Hide and seek is my favorite game to play if we need to go bye bye.

Mom doesn’t like it when I try on every pair of her shoes but I don’t understand why I cant wear one heel and one flip flop.

Bed time will not happen with out Dory, Frah-fee, and Kiddy Cat. Who each need kisses, every night before they can sleep.

 

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I could go on and on about my silly and wild girl but Bristol, you are definitely my sunshine mixed with a little bit of hurricane. ❤

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