Meet my Best Friend 

Doing something a little different on the blog today. Many of you either know me personally or follow my “mom-stagram” and know my little family is the blog. Jonas, Bristol and Brandon are the main attraction around here with my occasional “stream of consciousness” blog. But today I’d love to do something very special and introduce my best friend of about 12 years, Krystan. She is my person , she is my “go to” for advise and venting, and she is definitely one of my favorite people. She also is a talented writer and has been on and off again blogging for some time now. (Check out her blog: HERE) Life has brought her some wonderful changes, and unfortunately for me 😝,she has moved 13,000 miles away, all the way to TX. Her and I are always finding creative ways to make the distance feel shorter, by video messaging, snapchat, random Facebook tags and constant texting. (Even though I am thee worst at texting back) Recently we decided, since we both have blogs and enjoy writing, to start a joint monthly blog. One blog a month where we will post about the same subject but from each of our own perspectives. I hope you will join us and enjoy reading our posts. To start off, today’s blog is an introduction, where we interview each other. So here is my Krys, and her answers to our BFF interview.

 

Btw, this is my favorite photo of her ❤

 

Krystan, what embarrasses you the most and/or what’s been your most embarrassing moment?

KRYS: To be honest, I don’t get embarrassed easy. I’m clumsy and goofy and an overall klutz, so I’ve learned to just go with the flow. My most embarrassing moment though was one night when I was sleeping over at my bestie’s, Hannah, house. I was sleeping on the couch and, apparently, I was talking or mumbling. Her husband, Brandon, had come upstairs to check on her youngest child and heard me mumbling. He walked over to see if I was awake or what the hooey I was doing. He leaned over the couch to look at me and, being a light sleeper, I woke up. For whatever reason, in my groggy state, I thought Brandon was actually Jonas, Hannah’s son. I reached up and stroked his cheek with my hand. He drew back and I suddenly realized “Oh crud! That’s not Jonas!” I was so, so embarrassed, and still am when I think back to it!

Who do you look up to the most, and what qualities do you love about that person?

KRYS: This question is so difficult for me, as there are so many people I look up to. I’ll narrow it down as much as I can. The first person I look up to is my bestie, Hannah Ashley. There is a lot she’s gone through, but she never lets it keep her down…she pushes through with a smile on her face. The second is my sister, Ralynn Hann. She is who she is and if you don’t like her, it’s your loss…she’s taught me to love myself and accept myself and just be me! The last person is my grandmother, Shirley Peoples. She gives and gives and gives, until she’s threadbare and tired, then she gives some more. She’s handicapped (knee and back problems), but she doesn’t let that stop her, especially when it comes to church. She’s probably the hardest worker and most dedicated saint of God I know.

What would be your perfect day? Plan it out from breakfast to bedtime

KRYS: First would be no breakfast…my perfect day would be sleeping in as late as I can! Lol. I am NOT  a morning person! I would then spend the day reading to my leisure, sipping coffee (black, of course), eating cookies (and not gaining any weight from said cookies! Lol) and ending with game night with all my loved ones, snuggling my sweet nieces and godchildren.

What’s your biggest fear?

KRYS:I’ve struggled for a long time. I just want to make it on my own…have my own car, my own job, my own little apartment, and my own pet. I want independence. So many people have told me I can’t do that, I can’t live on my own, can’t support myself. I’m trying so hard, but my biggest fear is that I’ll never be able to do that…that I’ll always have to depend on others.

How do you like to be comforted when you’re sad or upset?

KRYS: It’s funny. I’m a very emotional person, and a hugger at that. When I’m upset though, I want to be left alone. I want to cry or get mad and punch my pillow, cry and scream, and pray, all alone. Then I want to call up Hannah or Ralynn and vent vent vent. Lol.

What’s your favorite memory?

KRYS: This is another difficult one. I have so many wonderful memories! Probably my favorite is the day my sister got married. She married an absolutely wonderful man who treats her like a queen. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding, which was beautiful. It was a rustic theme, with burlap and lace and wood. When my grandfather, all dressed up in his navy blues, walked her down the aisle, I’m not going to lie…I plain out ugly cried! I was so happy for her.

What’s your favorite thing you own?

KRYS: My books, for sure! I don’t have many, but I’m starting to collect a few, including books by Francine Rivers, and the “House of Winslow” series by Gilbert Morris. There’s just nothing like a good, good book!

Who was the last person who made you cry and why?

KRYS: My pastor’s son, Kendall Wood. He preached Wednesday night about “The blessing of being a servant.” He had us sing “Thank you for Giving to the Lord” by Ray Boltz and it really, really touched me. That’s all I want in this life, is to make a real difference in someone’s life.

Where do you hope to be 5/10/15 years from now?

KRYS: 5 years- remarried with at least one child, 10 years-a housewife homeschooling my house full of kids and working part-time at my own bookstore, 15 years-Gah, I’ll be so old! Lol. Probably in the same place as the 10 years.

If money were no object, what would you buy?

KRYS: This is easy…I’d buy round trip plane tickets for all my family and pay for the hotel rooms. It’s difficult for my grandparents to travel, but they want to see all our loved ones so bad. I don’t think some of them understand the difficulty of traveling when you’re elderly, and the others simply don’t have the means to travel, so someone paying all expenses might be the only way to get them here.

When have you felt the most proud?

KRYS: Hmm. Probably when my brother joined the Air Force. We come from a very, very military family, and I can’t think of a better career for my brother to be in!

When have you felt the most challenged?

KRYS: When I taught Preschool, especially teaching the two-year old classes. Trying to teach and entertain 20+ kids every day, sometimes with little to no help, is very challenging. Throw in potty training, some demanding parents, some accusing parents, and little pay and appreciation for all your hard work…yes, it was very challenging…but extremely rewarding. I absolutely loved it!

Do you have any regrets? If so, what are they?

KRYS: My whole teenage years. I was so awkward, and looking back I said and did some very, very embarrassing things. Why anyone who knew me then still talks to me, I’ll never know! Lol.

When was the moment in your life you laughed the hardest?

KRYS: Probably the night I slept over at Hannah’s house and we decided to stay up all night long. We tried vlogging on a website and answering questions from random people. Some of the things these people asked us to do were absolutely ridiculous. We were beyond exhausted and absolutely everything was hilarious. We laughed so hard at some of the stupidest things, my stomach was killing me and I couldn’t breathe!

Which celeb would you want as your other BFF and why?

KRYS: I don’t really give a hooey about any celebrity, as I know not once single celebrity gives a hooey about me, so this question is very difficult. Hmm…maybe Francine Rivers, to get writing tips from. I don’t know. Lol.

What did you dream about last night?

KRYS: It was actually bizarre. I had a dream that I was getting married. A huge Rottweiler was my ring bearer, and my groom was dressed up in a chicken suit, so I couldn’t see who he was. My bridesmaids were all people I don’t know, and were wearing animal costumes, and my gown was white, puffy, and had cow spots all over.

Which family member are you closest to?

KRYS: This would be a tie between my sister and my grandmother. Both have been there for me and have helped me through some very difficult times. I don’t know where I’d be without either.

What do you do when no one else is around?

KRYS: I turn my favorite Disney songs on and sing with a passion and dance and just be silly. I only do this when I’m completely alone, as I don’t fancy strait jackets and padded rooms.

Where do you want to travel?

KRYS: Australia, Greece, and California. Australia and the aborigines are fascinating (and those accents!!!!!), I would LOVE to have authentic Greek food IN beautiful Greece, and I was born in California, but don’t remember it as we left before I was a year old.

What’s one thing most people don’t know about you?

KRYS: I’m very, very emotional. I try to hide it and keep it to myself, but I have spent many a night crying over something so silly…for example, once I was in a waiting room and a Gerber commercial came on the T.V. It showed all these adorable babies and their parents loving on them and I lost it. All I’ve ever wanted is to be a mom, and it seems so far away, so unattainable. When my GPop passed, I comforted my little cousin, then went to the garage and cried. Another cousin came out and caught me and told me not to cry alone.



Thanks for reading this far! Would love to hear your feedback. Feel free to check out my answers at http://justkrys10.weebly.com/  ❤

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To Do 2017

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I hate saying I’m making a “News Year Resolution” to do something. Why? Because I always break it. It’s like the automatic jinx, if I just say the words, I break it. Over the past few years I decided I would start the year with a few things I thought I would try to make a habit of and most of them stuck. It felt less like a commitment since I obviously have commitment issues. 😉

 For 2017 I have some new goals and  little ways to improve my year.

BE CONTENT

Enjoy life. Stop looking at all the ways which my life could be different and enjoy where I am in life now. Stop comparing my life to others. Enjoy the life I have and improve on what I can.

FOCUS ON THOSE WHO CARE  cut out those who don’t

This has been on my “list”every year. I want to surround myself with positive, caring people who have equal interest and investment in my life, as I do in theirs. Not only just cutting out those who bring me down, but uplift those in my life who care and are involved my life.

STOP OVERTHINKING

This is probably the hardest for one me, yet something I desperately need to stop. I overthink. Everything .A lot of times I overthink something so much I end up either ruining it, forgetting about it or stressing about it. I was reading a random article about tips to help you wake up even earlier and something that stuck with me was “Don’t think about it and just do it. Get up go put clothes on and not think.” I actually noticed in using this for other things that it really works! Just stop trying to be a perfectionist and do it. No one cares that much anyway and if you are thinking about other peoples projection of whatever it is, then you probably shouldn’t be doing it in the first place.

MAKE TIME

Do more within your week. Stay busy. Make plans. Do your nails. Schedule family time. Plan ahead!

BE POSITIVE

I am defiantly a realist with a dash of pessimism. It’s so much easy to look at things negativity and I want to be more positive and stop putting myself into a positive mindset by being negative.

BLOG MORE

I have to admit. This is something that falls into another category I wrote about above. I over think this blog. I think about who wants to read that and if I should even bother but then I hate seeing that I haven’t written anything in months. This is something I enjoy whether or not others read it, years from now I will love come and read about my life and things that were on my mind and on bad days when I’m “overthinking”, read this very post.

READ MORE

When I was younger it was all I did.Everywhere, anytime I had a book in my hand. Now that I have 2 kids and a every excuse not to make time, I can barely read one book a month. Reading not only is enjoyable but will encourage my children to do the same. So much of a good education relies on reading.

BE HEALTHIER

Don’t obsess over weigh. Even though sometimes it does, it shouldn’t define my happiness. Eat less, drink more water and move more. Healthy habits!

TAKE TIME FOR ME

Self care can be lost in a “mom bun and “leggings everyday after becoming a SAHM. Not that we don’t all have those days or that there is something wrong with it. But it’s amazing how much better you feel after taking the time to put some eye liner on straight. 😀 Take time to spend a few minutes doing something for me. The fact that Bristol dresses better than I do, is a shame to the old me. 😀 But that doesn’t mean I cannot make the time to do a workout in the morning, or get my nails or do a new hair style, or maybe even go to the store for some kid free me time and go on a mini make up spree.

 SPEND LESS ON THINGS

Of course we all want to stop spending money on things we don’t need but I’m talking about instead of spend money on things spend it on experiences. Some of my favorite memories are of day trips or little things we did as a family that cost a bit of money but not only were enjoyable but memorable. Years from now that $40 dress will be gone, ( or more likely not fit) but that $40 trip to the Zoo you will remember. Collect memories, not things.

 

LIST  OF SMALL THINGS TO COMPLETE

  • Start meal planning. Take the time to write out what meals we are having in a week and make ingredient list before I get to the store
  • Organize every drawer and cabinet. Donate anything I haven’t used at least 1 time in the past year
  • GET RID OF THAT HORRIBLE JUNK DRAWER (We ALL have one)  I happen to have 2 of these. #selfshame time to gut it and throw all that random stuff I’ll never use away!
  • Drink at least 72 oz water. I have two 24 oz water reusable bottles. I was doing so well at refilling through the day but lately have slacked off. Its only 3 bottles! That’s do-able!
  • Start to learn a new language – I thinking French.
  • Try to do at least 1 random act of kindness a week.  More importantly include the kids in this, go give flowers to the elderly at the Hospice center.Even something as small as a genuine compliment to a friend.
  • Organize all my photos. The ones on my hard drive and computer and about 100 SD cards, plus google photos and hard copies. Get them all in 1 or 2 places.
  • Put phone away an hour before bed. Spend bedtime not only cleaning up but also focusing on family no distractions.
  • Send thank you cards to those in your life. A spontaneous handwritten note can meet so much to someone who may not know that you appreciate them. Life is too short to not let those around you know that you care.

I know this is late (maybe I should add being on time to my list) but,

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I hope you enjoyed my blog and maybe liked it enough to add some to your list of 2017 “to-do”.

Thanks for reading!

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Potty Training 2.0

Potty Training. Oh the joys. With Jonas, my oldest, he had zero understanding, or interest in using the toilet for the longest time. After trying several tries and him not comprehending what to do, I gave up. It was on his 3rd birthday that I just told him we were done with diapers and to now pee in the toilet. (At this point he was well old enough to understand) and after a few mistakes he was good to go.

“I’ve done this once before, I should know how to do this, right?”

I’ve always heard girls are easier to potty train than boys and was excited to potty train Bristol earlier than Jonas. But as with every comparison of my two children, she is completely different story. The child is clever. Too clever. At about 14 months she was taking off her diaper and would tell you she was poopy.  I thought I had lucked out and she was ready. Nope. That toilet (and the other 2 kinds) were completely terrifying and she NEEEEEDDDEEDD diapers. Honestly, the granola mom side of me loved our Cloth Diapers (note the ‘our’ 😉 ) and decided to wait. Still she would let me know and had all the signs of being ready, even going as far as telling me what a “good job” I was doing peeing in the toilet, when I would bring her with me to see how big girls pee in the potty. She would tell me how pee pee goes in the toilet yet every few weeks I would give potty training a try, and every time she would scream and BEG for her diaper. Finally I decided that she KNOWS how to potty in the toilet but she has no desire to do so. Unfortunately she may have inherited some of mine (or more likely 😉 Brandon’s) stubborn genes. Someday she would be potty trained, but not until she decided she wanted to.

Meanwhile, I had the voices of other moms, “You mean she isn’t potty trained? My girl was _ months when she was potty trained.” and “You really should try now or she’ll be 16 and still in Cloth Diapers.” (I DO love my Cloth Diapers 🙂 ) There was one piece of advice that kept coming back to me, something my mother kept saying “When she is ready, she will be ready. Just give her time.”

The Book

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I really should  call this post, how my 2 year old potty trained herself.

At almost 2 1/2, Bristol LOVES books. They have always been her favorite thing. (Other than Daddy) So one day my mother and I were looking through the books at BJs when we came across this book, “Girls’ Potty Time”. The front has a nice little toilet lid and inside are pictures of panties and little girls using the potty. It even came with little stickers in the back (Spoiler Alert: THIS BOOK IS A MIRACLE!) Bristol immediately wanted to read the book and as I let her skim through the pages you could see the wheels turning as she looked. “Potty in toilet?”…” Big Girl Panties”…”Big Girl pee pee in toilet” she kept saying. I motioned to my mother who also could see, Bristol was really into this book. Thinking no harm could be done, it was worth a shot and maybe if I read it to her about 1,000 times she’d finally get it, I got the book. I wish I has taken a picture, the entire way home she intensely studied this book. I got a kick out of it and thought it was adorable. We got home and as I began to unload groceries I noticed that my usual little helper was no where to be found. After searching, I discovered her in the bathroom with her skirt and diaper off and she was trying to get on the toilet. I set her on the toilet (with one of the “terrifying” potty seats on it) and she actually peed. We put big girl panties on and every time she needed to pee, she would tell me and she would actually pee. That was Thursday and by Sunday she had only made 2 mistakes and both of those were at night in a cloth pull up. I really couldn’t believe it. My mother kept joking with me that Bristol is the only child she had ever seen, that decided to potty train herself by reading about it in a book.

I know this whole post sounds melodramatic but if you are looking to potty train and your little one loves books, buy. this. book! 😀 .

Other tips I learned this time around.

Although she is completely potty trained now I may have made a slight mistake by using candy as an incentive. She is clever enough to hold her pee and make one pee last about 3 times to the toilet for triple the candy reward. Clever, Bristol…very clever.

If I only had one tip to give about potty training it would be to just wait. When they are ready, they will be ready. Otherwise you will be potty trained, by constantly bringing them to the potty, and not your little one.

Also carrying a small potty training toilet lid with you, so you can go to the store and she will still pee in the toilet, will surely get you some strange looks. I mean I have disinfectant wipes with me, come on do you all think I’m that gross?! 😉

(Yup, I do still miss those Cloth Diapers. 😉 )

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